Self-Confidence & Other Stories

Sunday, 1 January 2017
Recently I went for a coffee date with another blogger. I met Anastasia from Nat Bees and we had some tea at Southpour, an old favourite of mine before we walked her dog through the meadows. We stopped in George Square, part of my university's campus, where I took some photos for Anastasia and she did the same for me.

And when I looked at the photos afterwards?

Well in all honestly I hate the way that I look in them.

And when I looked at them I said to myself 'it's fine I don't need to put them on my blog, no one needs to see me like this'.

But the thing is.

That's what I look like. That is my face. That is my hair. That's me. 

I don't think that I'd be being the sort of person that I wish to be if I didn't publish something because I think my hair is frizzy and that my roots are awful. Like everyone, I have good and bad days and sometimes I just have to roll with the punches. My appearance is often at the root of issues with my self-confidence. When I'm poking holes in my personality that's in a much darker frame of mind. 

But when I think about the women in my life who I consider to be my friends, my inspirations, my mentors etc and the reasons why I consider them this way...

It's not because they are pretty, or graceful, or fashionable.
I value the people in my life because they are kind. Funny. Determined. Strong. Intelligent. 
Fiercely and unapologetically themselves.

I truly do not believe that perfection exists. I don't think it's possible to be impeccably beautiful or intelligent or funny. Hell, I don't even think it's possible for someone to be 100% healthy.

Despite a temporary lapse, I do consider myself to be a self-confident person. I've spent a lot of time putting myself down and quite frankly I no longer have the longing or time to continue doing so. I've realised that life is a lot kinder to me if I am kinder to myself.

I'm not making set goals or resolutions for 2017 but being kinder to myself seems like a good way to start living.

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  1. I love this. What a fantastic and refreshing attitude. I feel much the same way about the way I look and can't stand to have my photo taken - which is stupid because I only have a handful with my son that I can bear to look at. I'm going to try and go easier on myself this year.

  2. You go girl! You are a wonderful human being, and I'm glad you're embracing yourself.

    Lizzie Bee //


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